Bachelorette Season Has Returned

That title will only be appreciated by my ‘special’ little brother.

In case you were wondering:

Ali and Roberto are still together.

Really?  I guess he still feels lucky because she chose him over 20 douche bags and three pretty cool guys (Frank recused himself because he was whiner and a baby).  I guess, ultimately, Ali got off lucky because The Bachelor NEVER marries that season’s winner.

Fast forward to this season’s “The Bachelorette”.

Episode 3 – aired 6 June (I didn’t have the energy to care enough about the first two).  For some reason Comcast decided I wouldn’t receive ABC HD for a week, so I had to watch this episode the old-fashioned way – ‘On Demand’ with limited commercial interruptions.  Which is the reason this is going up less than 24 hours before the next episode:

I don’t watch The Bachelor so I don’t know the history of Ashley, and the other girl (Emily) that apparently a lot of the guys (especially Bentley) wanted instead more.
In truth, she’s not particularly my type either (short, kinda mousy, and distinctly insecure – I also suspect she has a disproportionately long forehead).

Date with Ben (flash mob fiasco):

If it wasn’t for Tosh.0 I wouldn’t even have a clue what a Flash Mob was (not sure why these type of things are so far removed from my peripheral).  This date was incredibly ho-hum, and regardless of what Ashley said for the camera; Ben was not a particularly good dancer (I can speak from a position of expertise on this – as a fellow bad dancer).  He was also nervously fast-talking, and came across as terribly unauthentic with his bubble boy of love routine.  Even if he truly believed his graphically sappy spiel'; his incongruent presentation made it hard to swallow as sincere.  Believe me guys – women are very tuned in to congruency in mannerisms and speech.

The Roast (aka William almost goes down): 

Just say you didn’t mean it!  This whole bit was dumb.  Even Donald Trump looked like he was going to cry when they were strumming his pain with their fingers in his Roast.

Comedy Central Roast of Donald Trump

A girl who is obviously insecure in her position should not be subjected to such things.  That said, William handled his situation HORRIBLY.  If a girl likes you, she will want to give you the benefit of the doubt (this small fact of graciousness has saved my butt more times than you can imagine).  But you have to give her the opportunity to do so.  “I never would have said those things if I actually believed them.  You don’t tell a fat person they’re fat.  I think you are beyond awesome, and I’m so glad they chose you as The Bachelorette.  Honestly, I was just trying to win the challenge and impress you.”… is what he should have said. 

Bentley

Bentley is a sociopath.  I also suspect he was trying to show off, and maybe extend his reality TV career.  He is also a complete natural, and very good with girls.  The way he escaped her interrogation and actually improved his position - should be studied by anthropologists and behaviorists.  He is a dexterous master of rapport.  In the couch scene he expertly mirrors her gestures (head tilt, hand movements…), which eases her anxiety and helps her to trust and believe him.  This is a great example of the irrationality of attraction.  If Ashley had assessed the situation with logic instead of emotion, she never would have believed his denial.  Her friend (who tipped her off to Bentley) would have no particular motivation to mislead her, whereas Bentley would have every reason to lie.  Side note: (and depending on the girl) having a mutual acquaintance warn her about you could be the most powerful advantage you could gain in her pursuit. His denial kinda reminds me of that early decade hit that every guy loved, and every girl hated.

Bentley was a piece of dog poop, but I wish he had stuck around for  a while. 

 

Love and its pursuit thereof is not a rational undertaking.

- Rick )